tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2984633897462449005.post6756902585909992449..comments2023-07-25T17:01:56.744+01:00Comments on Mrs W's Wine Habit: Should your partner stop drinking alcohol to support you, when you quit?Mrs W's Wine Habithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07371388643223316978noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2984633897462449005.post-54046178322390267932018-07-05T00:27:23.320+01:002018-07-05T00:27:23.320+01:00It insn't suffering if they aren't an addi...It insn't suffering if they aren't an addict. If your spouse or child is an addict, and you aren't, you abstain. RESPECT. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2984633897462449005.post-11811532788380286662018-07-04T23:25:37.803+01:002018-07-04T23:25:37.803+01:00Sweetie, by your own admission (your 30 June blog ...Sweetie, by your own admission (your 30 June blog post), every time you have failed/relapsed /drank, last year has been in your home which you refer to as "it's not my house it's "ours". Do you drink when he is drinking in front of you? I understand that maybe the mortgage on your home isn't in your name and that your paycheck isn't paying that bill but you have a say so in what goes on there. If you had lung cancer would he smoke next to you in "your" house.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2984633897462449005.post-43310373668677378632018-06-22T03:47:51.009+01:002018-06-22T03:47:51.009+01:00Goodness, don't visit my blog then, I'm dr...Goodness, don't visit my blog then, I'm dreadful at all of those types of things! LOLMusings Of A Crazy Cat Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16562994047166311333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2984633897462449005.post-82943953341729124452018-06-20T19:16:01.978+01:002018-06-20T19:16:01.978+01:00You are fortunate, however, it's not my house ...You are fortunate, however, it's not my house it's "ours"; however, I do have some concession, in that he will not drink in front of me most times. It's been hard at times, but I'm moving forward regardless.Lia Leonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13211861233662358798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2984633897462449005.post-29345365411686980472018-06-17T15:44:35.749+01:002018-06-17T15:44:35.749+01:00Thanks for the correction Anon :-). I'm usuall...Thanks for the correction Anon :-). I'm usually pretty good with spelling, grammar and punctuation .Mrs W's Wine Habithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07371388643223316978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2984633897462449005.post-13393918505356327202018-06-16T21:01:24.172+01:002018-06-16T21:01:24.172+01:00too, meaning also:)too, meaning also:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2984633897462449005.post-50020740399752587062018-06-16T20:32:17.038+01:002018-06-16T20:32:17.038+01:00My position was, "I'm getting sober and t...My position was, "I'm getting sober and there will be no alcohol in my house or drinking in my space." And there wasn't. Nuf said.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2984633897462449005.post-24401045592938865132018-06-13T15:39:34.816+01:002018-06-13T15:39:34.816+01:00Hug received! :-)Hug received! :-)Lia Leonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13211861233662358798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2984633897462449005.post-61301038158413971232018-06-12T08:37:11.208+01:002018-06-12T08:37:11.208+01:00Hi Lia. You certainly do have a valid point - why...Hi Lia. You certainly do have a valid point - why should our partners suffer because we abuse alcohol? As I said, I have only my point of view using my situation. I guess I don't understand how extra specially hard it is to stop drinking when your partners haven't.... like yourself. You need a huge pat on the back and a hug! xxMrs W's Wine Habithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07371388643223316978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2984633897462449005.post-70612572663094405872018-06-10T01:02:52.298+01:002018-06-10T01:02:52.298+01:00Should they? In a perfect world, yes. This isn&#...Should they? In a perfect world, yes. This isn't a perfect world. My husband is one who hasn't stopped drinking. He drinks more than is recommended, but no where near the way I did. He also doesn't act badly and/or blackout like I did too. We've talked many times about my struggle, and how his drinking has made it hard for me to stay sober. But ultimately, I have to do this sober thing for me, and I can't blame others and/or situations for my issues with alcohol. It is harder to quit when you do have a partner is drinks, but it is not impossible. <br /><br />All you can do is be there for your friend, and if what you see is something you cannot condone, then stay away. <br /><br />Lia Leonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13211861233662358798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2984633897462449005.post-11674146929377521882018-06-08T08:44:20.189+01:002018-06-08T08:44:20.189+01:00Thanks for that link Wendy. I'll give it a rea...Thanks for that link Wendy. I'll give it a read. <br /><br />My own personal thought is that my friend should at least try to be sober ... but, at the end of the day it's their lives and their decision.<br /><br />Our husbands are truly remarkable and I love mine all the more for being so supportive in this way. xxMrs W's Wine Habithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07371388643223316978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2984633897462449005.post-81273024226579077012018-06-08T08:39:06.242+01:002018-06-08T08:39:06.242+01:00Me to - although I would say that we live with the...Me to - although I would say that we live with the cats rather than them living with us. We are the cats' slaves!Mrs W's Wine Habithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07371388643223316978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2984633897462449005.post-9734923364951462732018-06-08T06:52:36.918+01:002018-06-08T06:52:36.918+01:00LOL, just two these days!LOL, just two these days!Musings Of A Crazy Cat Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16562994047166311333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2984633897462449005.post-54599521874741537732018-06-08T00:35:16.047+01:002018-06-08T00:35:16.047+01:00Your hubs was like mine. I never asked him to quit...Your hubs was like mine. I never asked him to quit, but he did, and it does make it easier for me.<br />I am sorry about your friend and her husband. <br />xo<br />Wendy<br />PS - Here is an article written by Dan Maurer on getting sober as a couple.<br />https://www.workithealth.com/blog/getting-sober-together?utm_campaign=family&utm_term=getting-sober-together&utm_content=70957411&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitterUntipsyteacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14975521042875808241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2984633897462449005.post-68027041299736695812018-06-07T02:15:13.557+01:002018-06-07T02:15:13.557+01:00How many cats are living with you?How many cats are living with you?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2984633897462449005.post-19672414777264045132018-06-07T01:39:02.274+01:002018-06-07T01:39:02.274+01:00Your poor friend, such turmoil to be in. Good on ...Your poor friend, such turmoil to be in. Good on you for supporting her gently through this situation. And good on Mr W for supporting you!Musings Of A Crazy Cat Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16562994047166311333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2984633897462449005.post-4487450737780792572018-06-07T00:49:13.674+01:002018-06-07T00:49:13.674+01:00My apologies if this is redundant. This situation ...My apologies if this is redundant. This situation is a shit show. So sad for both your friend and her husband. Protect yourself and your sobriety. Be afraid, and act accordingly.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com